Today dad was scolding, actually barking with the vocal cords stretched to their maximum tension, using words, not filthy but harsh enough to scar your soul for the rest of your life. I stood still, eyes glued to the ground, ears shut from the world, mind wandering at non-existent places when I stumbled upon a thought “Why do people scold us for no apparent reason?”. Slowly as the truth dawned upon me I saw The vicious circle of anger. Well you would have also thought the same at some point of life, but let me guide you through this.
Why do our parents scold us? You want a simple answer? Because they can’t scold their bosses and because they have invested a lot of amount of money in us. They have raised the bar too high and expect you to cross over like a freakin rubber ball on a jumping streak. They see their money losing, they get agitated. If schooling would have been free, no parent would have cared more than a rat ass on the division you scored. A person needs to release his anger and frustration. If not, it will eat him inside out, drive him crazy. Culture says that we can’t scold our elders. That’s just against the rules governing nature. So we scold people who are below us, smaller in age, those whom we have authority upon. The boss scolds his workers for his official works or cheats them, creating frustration in their minds. Here anger originates. The workers, i.e. our dads scold their families i.e. our moms and us. Moms can’t scold their husbands, it’s against the rules. So they turn to us. Ultimately we get all the blame. Where does our anger go? It gets distributed among our siblings, road fights, break-up’s, enemies etc. For those who have no way to relieve their anger follow different methods like hurting themselves, crying alone, and also they do what we all do, Masturbate.
You must have noticed that couples who are love-married or couples who love each other a little too much are lenient in their behavior. Why? Because they have sex. People involved in furious sports like Boxing, Cricket, Football, Tennis, Basketball are less angry. Why? Because they relieve their anger on the games. Bosses, heads of companies, Independent businessmen, shop owners show less fury. Why? Because they have no seniors to scold them.
So the next time someone scolds you, be patient, let them relieve their anger. Don’t worry, your parents love you, but after all the day’s tension, hard work and expenditure they have a lot of anger accumulated inside them. They relieve it on you as they have no other place to. And the next time you get angry find a punching bag, a ball on a field, or the dark secluded corner of your bathroom to relieve your anger.
See the broader picture. If you don’t scold the people below you, they won’t scold the people below them. The chain of anger will be reduced. Your kids will have a better childhood without hearing words from your mouth that would haunt them in their dreams. Give it a thought and make the world a bit peaceful to live in. Signing off till the next post, crazybrains.!