Everyone, at some point of time, needs to settle down, making a family, having some kids and a loving life partner. Well, I’m speaking from a broader point of view, there may be a few exceptions where guys sworn to celibacy wont budge their vows till their last breath. But those cases are one in a million. So now returning back to the topic. Every sheet of a relationship is woven out of strands of trust, faith, love and responsibility. Without any of these the sheet tears apart at some point of time. Its said by our elders that ”Everything that happens is already jotted down by destiny, no one has a say about it.” They also say ”Couples are paired in heaven and united on earth”. If you take these statements seriously you will come to the same conclusion as I came to: “God doesn’t give a rat’s ass on the way you marry as long as you’re together.
Let me ask you something. Suppose you haven’t studied for your test well. You may fail also but the driver of your car makes you reach late for the test and you miss it. Whom would you blame? Even though you had chances of failing your full vengeance will be on the driver. If you had taken the test and then failed then you would be less angry as you knew it was your fault. This is why I feel love marriage is better, if it doesn’t work you can blame yourself not anyone else for pushing you in it.
Nothing in this world is absolute, no machine is fully efficient, no gas is ideal, no human is unflawed and no marriage is perfect. They say most divorces occur in love marriages. Yes, because when the married couple gets in an argument, the family helps only in sabotaging the relationship. But in an arranged marriage the whole family pours down essential morals on the couple that the couple forget what their argument was.
Love marriages symbolize freedom. You know the person beforehand, her likes, dislikes, everything. Your honeymoon doesn’t pass chit-chatting about each other’s hobbies but doing much better things instead . You have your romantic moments throughout your life. You have the awesome feeling of proposals, rejection, the first date, the walks on the beach, the moments in the rain, the first kiss and the first craving sex. You would miss all of these in an arranged marriage. In it you have each other for granted, you will love her, you will live with her, you have no choice. Yes, there would be less fights, almost no threats of a divorce but there will be no certainty of time it will take to know each other well, less say, fall in love.
But remember, as long as you love each other, are faithful, and trust each other, nothing can tear you apart. It doesn’t matter how you marry if you are happy with your soul mate. May peace be with you
Love is all i want from you,
Care is all i need,
I want all your attention,
Anytime, anyhow, anywhere.
And Baby, I swear,
I will hold you forever,
Till the last breath escapes me,
Till the last sun sets,
Till death separates us,
And then it regrets.
Don’t worry, I wont leave you,
I will follow you on and on,
Only You’ll be in my heart,
Till infinity and beyond..
Signing off till the next post, CrazyBrains