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Starving foOdie….

 

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The characters, places, events, foodstuffs depicted in this articulate creation are purely fictional which are solely based on non-fictional & fictional ideas & incidences as well. Any factual resemblance & relation, if intentionally or unintentionally found, to any of such characters, places, events, foodstuffs, facts & figures, has to be purely coincidental. This article does not tend & even attempt to distinguish or merely compare between the ones who are tagged to be a ‘hardcore foOdie’ or the ones who are simply blamed or naturally to be starving like skeletons……….

Also due care has been taken while conceptualizing the sensitive yet hungry stuffs dealt while critically dissecting the insects of ‘food for thought’; while bearing with the salty, spicy words etc throughout the couple of episodes. The pictorial representation, several content or otherwise depicted throughout the theme based for this articulate creation are for exemplary purpose & to certain extent does resemble any intentional connection to express support or show the brighter side & the other side of being a ‘starving foOdie’ & also an attempt of spreading the word for creating awareness or some ‘issued in public interest’ kindda stuff.

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That ‘thought’ struck at some very spurring moment, while gulping down the foodstuffs, in a messy mess, crowded with tables, chairs, fans, jugs, glasses etc etc. It may be bit ironical in a sense………..but, it’s a place which is surrounded with half a dozen sign boards which bluntly converses as, ‘Do not waste food’ & over & above also supporting & backing with boards saying ‘Save food’. Still, casually & as usual, just revolving thoughts around that unusual thought of……………….‘starving foOdie’…………….So moving back to the theme, taking the glimpses of a foOdie & his starve for food.

‘Food’ is any substance consumed to provide nutritional support for the body. It is usually of plant or animal origin & contains essential nutrients, such as carbohydrates, fats, proteins, vitamins, or minerals. The substance is ingested by an organism and assimilated by the organism’s cells in an effort to produce energy, maintain life, or stimulate growth. Historically, people secured food through two methods: hunting & gathering, & agriculture. Today, most of the food energy consumed by the world population is supplied by the food industry. The right to food is a human right derived from the International Covenant on Economic, Social and Cultural Rights (ICESCR), recognizing the “right to an adequate standard of living, including adequate food”, as well as the “fundamental right to be free from hunger”.

Most food has its origin in plants. Some food; around 2,000 plant species which are cultivated for food, is obtained directly from plants; but even animals that are used as food sources are raised by feeding them food derived from plants. Cereal grain is a staple food that provides more food energy worldwide than any other type of crop. Seeds are typically high in unsaturated fats and, in moderation, are considered a health food, although not all seeds are edible. Large seeds, such as those from a lemon, pose a choking hazard, while seeds from apples and cherries contain a poison (cyanide).

Vegetables are a second type of plant matter that is commonly eaten as food. These include root vegetables (potatoes & carrots), bulbs (onion family), leaf vegetables (spinach and lettuce), stem vegetables (bamboo shoots and asparagus), and inflorescence vegetables (broccoli and other vegetables such as cabbage or cauliflower).

Animals are used as food either directly or indirectly by the products they produce. Meat is an example of a direct product taken from an animal, which comes from muscle systems or from organs. Food products produced by animals include milk produced by mammary glands, which is processed into dairy products (cheese, butter etc). In addition, birds and other animals lay eggs, which are often eaten, & bees produce honey, nectar from flowers, which is a popular sweetener in many cultures. Some cultures consume blood, sometimes in the form of blood sausage, as a thickener for sauces, or in a cured, salted form for times of food scarcity.

Having elucidated about foodstuffs; foOdie (sometimes spelled foody) is an informal term for a particular class of aficionado & enthusiast of food & drink. The word was coined in 1981 by Paul Levy and Ann Barr, who used it in the title of their 1984 book ‘The Official FoOdie Handbook’.

Although used interchangeably, foOdies differ from gourmets in that gourmets are epicures of refined taste, whereas foOdies are amateurs who simply love food for consumption, study, preparation, news etc. FoOdies are a distinct hobbyist group &their typical interests & activities include the food industry, wineries and wine tasting, breweries and beer sampling, food science, following restaurant openings and closings and occasionally reopenings, food distribution, food fads, health and nutrition, cooking classes, culinary tourism, and restaurant management. Many publications have food columns that cater to foOdies and many of the websites carrying the name foOdie have become popular amongst the foOdies.

Moving a step further, ‘Fooding’ is the brand of a restaurant guide and gastronomic events; is a contraction of the words “food” and “feeling”, the Fooding aims to “defend a less-intimidating gastronomy for those who want to cook and nourish themselves in an unstuffy fashion”. The Fooding’s mission across its editorial activities and events is to liberate cuisine from the traditional codes and conventions that confine it, to give chefs the possibility of expressing themselves more fully, and to give contemporary eaters a true taste of the times. It emphasizes “the appetite for novelty and quality, rejection of boredom, love of fun, the ordinary, the sincere, and a yearning to eat with the times”.

Likewise, ‘Foodpairing’ is a method for identifying which foods go well together. The method is based on the principle that foods combine well with one another when they share key flavor components. Foodpairing is a relatively new method and is often confused with “wine and food pairing“, which is the practice of matching wine with food. By contrast, foodpairing is used to analyze food and to find chemical components that they have in common.

The foodpairing method is designed to inspire chef, foOdies, home cooks and food engineers. The method aids recipe design and provides new possible food combinations, which are theoretically sound on the basis of their flavor. Foodpairing provides possible food combinations, which are solely based on the intrinsic properties of the different food products, they are based on the flavor compounds which are present in the products. This results in possible combinations that are innovative and are not influenced or restricted by cultural and traditional context of the products. This independence occasionally results in surprising and unusual combinations.

Also, foodpairing is able to provide a basis for the success of traditionally settled food combinations. It is not a coincidence that the vast majority of the traditional top hit combinations, like bacon and cheese, asparagus and butter have many flavor components in common. For instance, coffee contains 700 different aroma compounds, but there are only a couple of aromas important for the smell of coffee because most of the aromas are present in concentrations that are not perceptible with the nose; they are present in concentrations lower than their flavor threshold.

P.S. :Leaving that ‘hunger’ on this note for now, to avoid overdose & overcooking of words & resultantly again wastage of words…. Till than, just ‘starve’ for ‘something’…..’anything’…….. & ‘everything’………..

~Thank You~

King of Loneliness

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Having gone through more than couple of dozen thesis, informative sources & having further scrolled down several countless links, googled & wikied innumerous terms in context of the article, it has been far from mere writing some abstract stuff. Instead it was just an impulsive attempt to explore more into the world of loneliness while rewinding of nostalgic moments of being much lonely & alone.

At the very spurring point, being lone, being lonely, & being alone; physically, mentally, consciously or otherwise; lies the point of discussion & theme of this yet another articulate creation. For some it may be bit stereotype, fruitless research or philosophical & out of the world track; having removed citations, references etc. But still, moving back to the theme, without wasting much of the words in prelude & time to catch up the nerves of this article.

There may not be a single word, evolving from the medical terms; to coin down the state of being lonely or even to stay aloof like some fool. Neither attempting to spotlight into the myths & facts revolving around loneliness; rather just exploring the other side by confronting behind the curtains. But just because the words are sprouting out; filtering & refining to intensify the intensity.

By & large, loneliness is a complex & usually unpleasant feeling in which a person feels a strong sense of emptiness & solitude. The causes of loneliness are varied, but it can be affected by social, mental, emotional, spiritual & countless factors. In contrast, the term alone may imply to solitude, a state of seclusion or isolation.

Shyness is most likely to occur during unfamiliar situations, though in severe cases it may hinder an individual in one’s most familiar situations & relationships as well. Shy people avoid the objects of their apprehension in order to keep from feeling uncomfortable & inept; thus, the situations remain unfamiliar & the shyness perpetuates itself. Shyness may fade with time; e.g., a child who is shy towards strangers may eventually lose this trait when older & become more socially skillful.

In some cases, though, it may become an integrated, lifelong character trait. Humans experience shyness to different degrees & in different areas.

For example, an actor may be loud & bold on stage, but shy in an interview. In addition, shyness may manifest when one is in the company of certain people & completely disappear when with others— one may be outperforming with friends & family, but experience love-shyness toward potential partners, even if strangers are generally not an obstacle. A hermit is a person who lives, to some degree, in seclusion from society.

The condition of true shyness may simply involve the discomfort of difficulty in knowing what to say in social situations, or may include crippling physical manifestations of uneasiness. Shyness usually involves a combination of both symptoms, & may be quite devastating for the sufferer, in many cases leading them to feel that they are boring, or exhibit bizarre behavior in an attempt to create interest, alienating them further. Behavioral traits in social situations such as smiling, easily producing suitable conversational topics, assuming a relaxed posture & making good eye contact, may not be second nature for a shy person. Such people might only affect such traits by great difficulty, or they may even be impossible to express.

Those who are shy are actually perceived more negatively because of the way they act towards others. Shy individuals are often distant during conversations, which may cause others to create poor impressions of them, simply adding to their shyness in social situations. Other times people who are not shy may be too up-front, aggressive, or critical towards shy people in an attempt “to get them out of their shell.” This may actually make a shy person feel worse, as it can draw attention to them (making them more self-conscious & uncomfortable) or cause them to think there is something very wrong with themselves. The result is that shy person could become even shyer in social situations.

The term shyness may be implemented as a lay blanket-term for a family of related & partially overlapping afflictions, including timidity, bashfulness & diffidence (reluctance in asserting oneself), apprehension & anticipation (general fear of potential interaction), or intimidation (relating to the object of fear rather than one’s low confidence). Apparent shyness, as perceived by others, may simply be the manifestation of reservation or introversion, character traits which cause an individual to voluntarily avoid excessive social contact or be terse in communication, but are not motivated or accompanied by discomfort, apprehension, or lack of confidence.

Conversely, shy people may fear such situations & feel that they “should” avoid them. Shy people tend to perceive their own shyness as a negative trait, & many people are uneasy with shyness in others, especially in cultures which value individuality & taking charge. This generally poor reception of shyness may be misinterpreted by the suffering individual as aversion related to one’s personality, rather than simply to one’s shyness. Both conditions can lead to a compounding of a shy individual’s low self-confidence.

In cultures that value outspokenness & overt confidence, shyness can be perceived as weakness. To an unsympathetic observer, a shy individual may be mistaken as cold, distant, arrogant or aloof, which can be frustrating for the shy individual. However, in other cultures, shy people may be perceived as being thoughtful, intelligent, as being good listeners, & as being more likely to think before they speak. Furthermore, boldness, the opposite of shyness, may cause its own problems, such as impertinence or inappropriate behavior.

Being shy can have its advantages as well, because shy people “have a tendency toward self-criticism, they are often high achievers, & not just in solitary activities like research & writing. Perhaps even more than the drive toward independent achievement, shy people long to make connections to others, often through altruistic behavior. Excessive shyness, embarrassment, self-consciousness & timidity, social-phobia & lack of self-confidence are also components of erethism.

Solitude is a state of seclusion or isolation, i.e., lack of contact with people. It may stem from bad relationships, deliberate choice, infectious disease, mental disorders, neurological disorders or circumstances of employment or situation. Short-term solitude is often valued as a time when one may work, think or rest without being disturbed. It may be desired for the sake of privacy. A distinction has been made between solitude & loneliness. In this sense solitude is positive

The initial causes of shyness vary. Scientists have located some genetic data that supports the hypothesis that shyness is at least partially genetic. However, there is also evidence that the environment in which a person is raised can affect one’s shyness. This includes child abuse, particularly emotional abuse such as ridicule. Shyness can originate after a person has experienced a physical anxiety reaction; at other times, shyness seems to develop first & then later causes physical symptoms of anxiety. Shyness differs from social anxiety, which is a broader, often depression-related psychological condition including the experience of fear, apprehension or worrying about being evaluated by others in social situations to the extent of inducing panic.

Genetics & Heredity

It has been suggested that shyness & social phobia (the distinction between the two is becoming ever more blurred) are related to obsessive-compulsive disorder. Behavioral genetics is the study of shyness is complicated by the number of genes involved in, & the confusion in defining, the phenotype. Naming the phenotype – & translation of terms between genetics & psychology — also causes problems.  The prevalence of shyness in some children can be linked to day length during pregnancy, particularly during the midpoint of prenatal development

Shyness as a psychiatric illness made its debut as “social phobia” in DSM-III in 1980, but was then described as rare. By 1994, however, when DSM-IV was published, it had become “social anxiety disorder” & was now said to be extremely common. “Shyness is not a disability or disease to be ‘overcome’. It is simply the way we are. & in our own quiet way, we are secretly proud of it.”

 Shyness is often analyzed in the context of being a social dysfunction, & is frequently contemplated as a personality disorder or mental health issue. To examine the role that shyness might play in matters of social etiquette & achieving group-oriented goals. “Shyness is one of the emotions that may serve as behavioral regulators of social relationships in collectivistic cultures. For example, social shyness is evaluated more positively in a collectivistic society, but negatively evaluated in an individualistic society.”

 Social phobia is distinguished by a fear of public humiliation or embarrassment. It is one of several phobia disorders, which are all typified by excessive, specific, & consistent fear & avoidance of an object, activity, or situation. People with social phobia may avoid doing activities in public such as eating or speaking, as well as using public bathrooms. Ultimately, someone with social phobia fear that people they do not know may judge them, which would cause them to have anxiety.

The trait of extraversion–introversion is a central dimension of human personality theories. The terms introversion & extraversion were first popularized by Carl Jung, although both the popular understanding & psychological usage differ from the original intent. Extraversion tends to be manifested in outgoing, talkative, energetic behavior, whereas introversion is manifested in more reserved, quiet, shy behavior.

A loner is a person who avoids or does not actively seek human interaction or prefers to be alone. There are many reasons for solitude, intentional or otherwise, & “loner” does not imply a specific cause. Intentional reasons include spiritual & religious considerations or personal philosophies. Unintentional reasons involve being highly sensitive, having more extreme forms of shyness, or various mental disorders. The modern term “loner” can be used with a negative connotation in the belief that human beings are social creatures & those that do not participate are deviant.

Introversion is “the state of or tendency toward being wholly or predominantly concerned with & interested in one’s own mental life”. Some have characterized introverts as people whose energy tends to expand through reflection & dwindle during interaction.

The common modern perception is that introverts tend to be more reserved & less outspoken in groups. The archetypal artist, writer, sculptor, engineer, composer & inventor are all highly introverted. An introvert is likely to enjoy time spent alone & find less reward in time spent with large groups of people, though one may enjoy interactions with close friends.

Trust is usually an issue of significance: a virtue of utmost importance to an introvert choosing a worthy companion. They prefer to concentrate on a single activity at a time & like to observe situations before they participate, especially observed in developing children & adolescents. They are more analytical before speaking. Introverts are easily overwhelmed by too much stimulation from social gatherings; introversion has even been defined by some in terms of a preference for a quiet, more minimally stimulating environment.

Introversion is not seen as being identical to shy or to being a social outcast. Introverts prefer solitary activities over social ones, whereas shy people (who may be extroverts at heart) avoid social encounters out of fear, & the social outcast has little choice in the matter of one’s solitude.

Although many people view being introverted or extroverted as a question with only two possible answers, most contemporary trait theories measure levels of extraversion-introversion as part of a single, continuous dimension of personality. Ambiversion is a term used to describe people who fall more or less directly in the middle & exhibit tendencies of both groups. An ambivert is normally comfortable with groups & enjoys social interaction, but also relishes time alone & away from the crowd.

It is also found that introverts have more blood flow in the frontal lobes of their brain & the anterior or frontal thalamus, which are areas dealing with internal processing, such as planning & problem solving. Extroverts have more blood flow in the anterior cingulate gyrus & temporal lobes which are involved in sensory & emotional experience.

Extraverts & introverts have a variety of behavioral differences. Extraverts tend to wear more decorative clothing, whereas introverts prefer practical, comfortable clothes. Extraverts are likely to prefer more upbeat, conventional, & energetic music than introverts. Personality also influences how people arrange their work areas. In general, extraverts decorate their offices more, keep their doors open, keep extra chairs nearby. These are attempts to invite co-workers & encourage interaction. Introverts, in contrast, decorate less & tend to arrange their workspace to discourage social interaction.

Although extraverts & introverts have real personality & behavior differences, it is important to avoid stereotyping by personality. Humans are complex & unique, & because extraversion varies along a continuum, they may have a mixture of both orientations. A person who acts introverted in one scenario may act extraverted in another, & people can learn to act “against type” in certain situations. Also when someone’s primary function is extraverted, his secondary function is always introverted (& vice versa)

Acknowledging that introversion & extraversion are normal variants of behavior can help in self-acceptance & understanding of others. For example, an extravert can accept one’s introverted partner’s need for space, while an introvert can acknowledge one’s extraverted partner’s need for social interaction. The instrumental view proposes that personality traits give rise to conditions & actions, which have affective consequences, & thus generate individual differences in emotionality

The core element of extraversion is a tendency to behave in ways that attract, hold, & enjoy social attention, & not reward sensitivity. One of the fundamental qualities of social attention is its potential of being rewarding. Therefore, if a person shows positive emotions of enthusiasm, energy, & excitement, that person is seen favorably by others & gains others’ attention. Temperamental view is based on the notion that there is a direct link between people’s personality traits & their sensitivity to positive & negative affects

Autophobia, is the specific phobia of isolation; a morbid fear of being egotistical, or a dread of being alone or isolated.

Sufferers need not be physically alone, but believe that they are being ignored, threatened by intruders, & so on. It is sometimes associated with self-hatred. Autophobia may be a symptom of other psychological disorders or it may predispose a person to developing other psychological disorders.

The alternative five model of personality is based on the structure of human personality traits is best explained by five broad factors called Impulsive Sensation Seeking (ImpSS), NeuroticismAnxiety (N-Anx), Aggression–Hostility (Agg-Host), Sociability (Sy), & Activity (Act).

Social anxiety is the feeling of discomfort or fear when in social interactions involving a concern about being judged or evaluated by others. It is typically characterized by an intense, ego-driven fear of what others are thinking about them (specifically fear of embarrassment, criticism, rejection, etc.), which results in the individual feeling insecure, & that they are not good enough for other people, resulting in intense fear & anxiety in social situations, & the assumption that peers will automatically reject them in social situations.

The difference between social anxiety & normal apprehension of social situations is that social anxiety involves an intense feeling of fear in social situations & especially situations that are unfamiliar or in which one will be watched or evaluated by others. The feeling of fear is so great that in these types of situations one may be so worried that he or she feels anxious just thinking about them & will go to great lengths to avoid them.

Developmental social anxiety occurs early in childhood as a normal part of the development of social functioning, & is a stage that most children grow out of, but it may persist or resurface & grow into chronic social anxiety. People vary in how often they experience social anxiety & in which kinds of situations. Overcoming social anxiety depends on the person & the situation.

In some cases it can be relatively easy—just a matter of time for many individuals—yet for some people social anxiety can become a very difficult, painful & even disabling problem that is chronic in nature. Social anxiety can be related to shyness or anxiety disorders or other emotional or temperamental factors & the causes may vary depending on the individual. Recovery from chronic social anxiety is possible in many cases, but usually only with some kind of therapy or sustained self-help or support group work.

A psychopathological (chronic & disabling) form of social anxiety is called social phobia or social anxiety disorder, & is a chronic problem that can result in a reduced quality of life. Overcoming social anxiety of this type can be very difficult without getting assistance from therapists, psychologists or support groups. Social anxiety can also be self-integrated & persistent for people who suffer from obsessive-compulsive disorder, which can also make the social anxiety harder to overcome, especially if ignored

Social anxiety first occurs in infancy & is said to be a normal & necessary emotion for effective social functioning & developmental growth. Cognitive advances & increased pressures in late childhood & early adolescence result in repeated social anxiety. Adolescents have identified their most common anxieties as focused on relationships with peers to whom they are attracted, peer rejection, public speaking, blushing, self-consciousness, & past behavior. Most adolescents progress through their fears & meet the developmental demands placed on them.

Some students have such severe cases of social anxiety that they are too afraid to speak or interact with other students or teachers. Part of social anxiety is fear of being criticized by others, & in children social anxiety causes extreme distress over everyday activities such as playing with other kids, reading in class, or speaking to adults. On the other hand some children with social anxiety will act out because of their fear which makes it much harder to diagnose.

Some cases have been reported where the social anxiety is so bad that it leads to physical illness. The problem with identifying social anxiety disorder in children is that it can be difficult to determine the difference between social anxiety & basic shyness. Several forms of social anxiety include shyness, performance anxiety, public speaking anxiety, stage fright, timidness, etc. All of these may also assume clinical forms, i.e., become anxiety disorders.

The essence of social anxiety has been said to be an irrational or unreasonable expectation of negative evaluation by others. Social anxiety disorder may sometimes be symptomatic of an underlying medical disorder, such as hyperthyroidism.

In cognitive models of social anxiety disorder, social phobics experience dread over how they will be presented to others. They may be overly self-conscious, pay high self-attention after the activity, or have high performance standards for themselves. According to the social psychology theory of self-presentation, a sufferer attempts to create a well-mannered impression on others but believes one is unable to do so.

Many times, prior to the potentially anxiety-provoking social situation, sufferers may deliberately go over what could go wrong & how to deal with each unexpected case. After the event, they may have the perception they performed unsatisfactorily. Consequently, they will review anything that may have possibly been abnormal or embarrassing. These thoughts do not just terminate soon after the encounter, but may extend for weeks or longer. Cognitive distortions are a hallmark, & learned about in CBT (Cognitive-Behavioral Therapy). Thoughts are often self-defeating & inaccurate.

An example of an instance may be that of an employee presenting to his co-workers. During the presentation, the person may stutter a word, upon which one may worry that other people significantly noticed & think that their perceptions of one as a presenter have been tarnished. This cognitive thought propels further anxiety which compounds with further stuttering, sweating, &, potentially, a panic attack.

Behavioural aspects

Social anxiety disorder is a persistent fear of one or more situations in which the person is exposed to possible scrutiny by others & fears that one may do something or act in a way that will be humiliating or embarrassing. It exceeds normal “shyness” as it leads to excessive social avoidance & substantial social or occupational impairment. Feared activities may include almost any type of social interaction, especially small groups, dating, parties, talking to strangers, restaurants, etc. Possible physical symptoms include “mind going blank”, fast heartbeat, difficulty breathing, blushing, stomach ache, nausea etc.

Those who suffer from social anxiety disorder are afraid of being judged by others in society. People who suffer from this disorder may behave a certain way or say something & then feel embarrassed or humiliated after. Therefore, they choose to isolate themselves from society to avoid such situations. They may also feel uncomfortable meeting people they do not know & act distant when they are with large groups of people. In some cases they may show evidence of this disorder by not making eye contact or blushing when someone is talking to them.

Phobias are controlled by escape & avoidance behaviors. For instance, a student may leave the room when talking in front of the class (escape) & refrain from doing verbal presentations because of the previously encountered anxiety attack. Major avoidance behaviors could include an almost pathological/compulsive lying behavior in order to preserve self-image & avoid judgment in front of others. Minor avoidance behaviors are exposed when a person avoids eye contact & crosses arms to avoid recognizable shaking. A fight-or-flight response is then triggered in such events. Preventing these automatic responses is at the core of treatment for social anxiety.

Physiological aspects

Physiological effects, similar to those in other anxiety disorders, are present in social phobics. In adults, it may be tears as well as experiencing excessive sweating, nausea, difficulty breathing, shaking, & palpitations as a result of the fight-or-flight response. The walk disturbance (where a person is so worried about how they walk that they may lose balance) may appear, especially when passing a group of people. Blushing is commonly exhibited by individuals suffering from social phobia. These visible symptoms further reinforce the anxiety in the presence of others.

Also, life experiences can be another cause of Social anxiety. Negative experiences in life, & the way one handles & reacts to them, can also lead to the development of social anxiety. If one is consistently put in situations that makes one feel inferior or fear the judgment of other people, one can begin to develop negative beliefs about oneself & the world that can cause social anxiety. If negative experiences continue, one may also begin to develop confirmation bias & tend to pay attention only to the actions & events that will reinforce negative beliefs, creating a snowball effect.

For example, a public speaker who is worried about one’s presentation being boring may selectively focus on the few people in an audience who appear bored while completely disregarding the majority of others who are watching with keen interest. As the confirmation bias strengthens pejorative beliefs, one tends to start exhibiting socially anxious behaviors. These behaviors can include anxious sensations, like blushing, or anxious thoughts. After a while, these beliefs lead one to make negative assumptions about social situations.

Social anxiety, & depression, have been linked to one’s explicit & implicit self-esteem. “Explicit self-esteem would reflect deliberate self-evaluate processes whereas implicit self-esteem would reflect simple associations in memory.” Self-evaluative thoughts & actions can come from a person’s self-esteem level. The findings show that one’s explicit self esteem can be the factor leading to social anxiety & depression. The negative judgment that a person has towards themselves can be linked to unstable cognitive behavior that they possess.

Social anxiety causes communication apprehension, which can be thought of as an “internally experienced feeling of discomfort”, in turn causes ineffective communication when in a social or public situation. “Communication apprehension is the level of fear or anxiety associated with either real or anticipated communication with another person”

With social anxiety typically experience embarrassment, distressing panic attacks, & self-consciousness impairing their speech. They show issues in social perspective-taking ability, fewer successful problem solving skills, & use less interpersonal problem solutions. This can bring up problems for people with getting help for their problems of social anxiety. The feelings of embarrassment, inferiority, & shame that social anxiety causes inhibits the ability to seek help.

This disorder can be difficult to diagnose because it is easily confused with general shyness or paranoia in both children & adults. The underlying factors that cause symptoms of social anxiety are also hard to determine. Although, it has been found that some experiences in a person’s life can lead to developing this disorder.

There are no laboratory tests to specifically diagnose social anxiety disorder but, there are a variety of tests that can prove whether the cause is a physical or mental illness that is causing the symptoms. If there is no physical illness found, the patient will be referred to a psychiatrist or psychologist. Psychiatrists & psychologists use specially designed interview questions & assessment tools to evaluate a person with an anxiety disorder.

The doctor bases their diagnosis of social anxiety disorder on reports of the intensity & duration of symptoms, including any problems with functioning caused by the symptoms; if the symptoms & degree of dysfunction are above normal it will indicates that it is social anxiety disorder.

Treatment

It is not very difficult to treat social anxiety & the treatment needed varies case to case. It is claimed that the most effective treatment available is cognitive behavioral therapy (CBT), improving symptoms in up to 75 percent of people with social anxiety disorder.

Cultural factors that have been related to social anxiety disorder include a society’s attitude towards shyness & avoidance, affecting ability to form relationships.

While alcohol initially relieves social phobia, excessive alcohol misuse can worsen social phobia symptoms & can cause panic disorder to develop or worsen during alcohol intoxication & especially during alcohol withdrawal syndrome. This effect is not unique to alcohol but can also occur with long term use of drugs which have a similar mechanism of action to alcohol.

Schizoid personality disorder (SPD) is a personality disorder characterized by a lack of interest in social relationships, a tendency towards a solitary lifestyle, secretiveness, emotional coldness & apathy. Affected individuals may simultaneously demonstrate a rich, elaborate & exclusively internal fantasy world, although this is often more suggestive of schizotypal personality disorder.

SPD is not the same as schizophrenia, although they share such similar characteristics as detachment or blunted affect. There is, however, increased prevalence of the disorder in families with schizophrenia. Withdrawal or detachment from the outer world is a characteristic feature of schizoid (alleged) pathology, but may appear either in “classic” or in “secret” form. When classic, it matches the typical description of the schizoid personality.

The question of whether SPD qualifies as a full personality disorder or simply as an avoidant attachment style is contentious. If what has been known as schizoid personality disorder is no more than an attachment style requiring more distant emotional proximity, then many of the more problematic reactions these individuals show in interpersonal situations may be partly accounted for by the social judgments commonly imposed on those with this style.

SPD & avoidant attachment style are synonyms, which leaves open the question of how researchers might best approach this subject in future diagnostic manuals & therapeutic practice. However, individuals with SPD characteristically do not seek social interactions merely due to lack of interest, while those of the avoidant personality type crave interactions but fear rejection.

Depersonalization as a loss of a sense of identity & individuality. Depersonalization is a dissociative defense, often described by the schizoid patient as “tuning out,” “turning off”, or as the experience of a separation between the observing & the participating ego. It is experienced most profoundly when anxieties seem overwhelming & is a more extreme form of loss of affect: whereas the loss of affect is a more chronic state in schizoid personality disorder, depersonalization is an acute defense against more immediate experiences of overwhelming anxiety or danger

Agoraphobia is an anxiety disorder characterized by anxiety in situations where the sufferer perceives the environment as being difficult to escape or get help. These situations include, but are not limited to wide-open spaces, as well as uncontrollable social situations. Agoraphobia is defined within the DSM-IV TR as a subset of panic disorder, involving the fear of incurring a panic attack in those environments.

Agoraphobia is a condition where the sufferer becomes anxious in environments that are unfamiliar or where he or she perceives that they have little control. Triggers for this anxiety may include wide open spaces, crowds (social anxiety), or traveling (even short distances). Agoraphobia is often, but not always, compounded by a fear of social embarrassment, as the agoraphobic fears the onset of a panic attack & appearing distraught in public. This is also sometimes called ‘social agoraphobia’ which may be a type of social anxiety disorder also sometimes called “social phobia”.

The gender difference may be attributable to several factors: social-cultural traditions that encourage, or permit, the greater expression of avoidant coping strategies by women (including dependent & helpless behaviors); women perhaps being more likely to seek help & therefore be diagnosed; men being more likely to abuse alcohol in reaction to anxiety & be diagnosed as an alcoholic.

Exposure treatment can provide lasting relief to the majority of patients with panic disorder & agoraphobia. Similarly, Systematic desensitization may also be used. Many patients can deal with exposure easier if they are in the company of a friend they can rely on. It is vital that patients remain in the situation until anxiety has abated because if they leave the situation the phobic response will not decrease & it may even rise.

Relaxation techniques are often useful skills for the agoraphobic to develop, as they can be used to stop or prevent symptoms of anxiety & panic.

Anti-depressant medications most commonly used to treat anxiety disorders are mainly in the SSRI (selective serotonin reuptake inhibitor) class. Antidepressants are important because some have antipanic effects. Antidepressants should be used in conjunction with exposure as a form of self-help or with cognitive behaviour therapy. Some evidence shows that a combination of medication & cognitive behaviour therapy is the most effective treatment for agoraphobia.

Eye movement desensitization & reprogramming (EMDR) has been studied as a possible treatment for agoraphobia, with poor results. As such, EMDR is only recommended in cases where cognitive-behavioral approaches have proven ineffective or in cases where agoraphobia has developed following trauma

Selective mutism (SM) is a psychiatric disorder in which a person who is normally capable of speech is unable to speak in given situations or to specific people. Selective mutism usually co-exists with shyness or social anxiety. With selective mutism are fully capable of speech & understanding language but fail to speak in certain situations, though speech is expected of them. The behaviour may be perceived as shyness or rudeness by others.

A child with selective mutism may be completely silent at school for years but speak quite freely or even excessively at home. There is a hierarchical variation among those suffering from this disorder: some people participate fully in activities & appear social but don’t speak, others will speak only to peers but not to adults, others will speak to adults when asked questions requiring short answers but never to peers, & still others speak to no one & participate in few, if any, activities presented to them. In a severe form known as “progressive mutism”, the disorder progresses until the sufferer no longer speaks to anyone in any situation, even close family members.

Selective mutism is by definition characterized by the following:

Consistent failure to speak in specific social situations (in which there is an expectation for speaking, e.g., at school) despite speaking in other situations. The disturbance interferes with educational or occupational achievement or with social communication. The duration of the disturbance is at least 1 month (not limited to the first month of school). The failure to speak is not due to a lack of knowledge of, or comfort with, the spoken language required in the social situation. The disturbance is not better accounted for by a communication disorder (e.g., stuttering) & does not occur exclusively during the course of a pervasive developmental disorder, schizophrenia, or other psychotic disorder.

Selective mutism can be caused by shyness &/or social anxiety in some people. Some shy or socially anxious people feel uncomfortable talking to certain people. Most children with selective mutism are believed to have an inherited predisposition to anxiety. This area receives indications of possible threats & sets off the fight-or-flight response.

Some children with selective mutism may have sensory integration dysfunction (trouble processing some sensory information). This would cause anxiety & a sense of being overwhelmed in unfamiliar situations, which may cause the child to “shut down” & not be able to speak (something that some autistic people also experience). Many children with SM have some auditory processing difficulties.

Selective mutism tends to be self-reinforcing. Those around such a person may eventually expect him or her not to speak & therefore stop attempting to initiate verbal contact with the sufferer. Alternately, they may pressure the child to talk, making him or her have even higher anxiety levels in situations where speech is expected. Because of these problems, a change of environment (such as changing schools) may make a difference, & treatment in teenage or adult years can be more difficult because the sufferer has become accustomed to being mute.

The exact treatment depends on the sufferer’s age, other mental illnesses one may have, & a number of other factors. For instance, stimulus fading is typically used with younger children, because older children & teenagers recognize the situation as an attempt to make them speak, & older sufferers & people with depression are more likely to need medication.

Stimulus fading

The subject is brought into a controlled environment with someone with whom they are at ease & can communicate. Gradually, another person is introduced into the situation. One example of stimulus fading is the sliding-in technique, where a new person is slowly brought into the talking group. This can take a long time for the first one or two faded-in people but may become faster as the sufferer gets more comfortable with the technique.

An example of this would be a child playing a board game with a family member in his/her classroom at school. Gradually, the teacher is brought in to play as well. When the child adjusts to one’s presence, then a peer is brought in to be a part of the game. Each person is only brought in if the child continues to engage verbally & positively.

Desensitization

The subject communicates indirectly with a person one is afraid to speak to through such means as email, instant messaging (text, audio, &/or video), online chat, voice or video recordings, & speaking or whispering to an intermediary in the presence of the target person. This can make the subject more comfortable with the idea of communicating with this person.

Shaping

The subject is slowly encouraged to speak. One is reinforced first for interacting nonverbally, then for saying certain sounds (such as the sound that each letter of the alphabet makes) rather than words, then for whispering, & finally saying a word or more.

Spacing

Spacing is important to integrate, especially with self-modeling. Repeated & spaced out use of interventions is shown to be the most helpful long-term for learning. Viewing videotapes of self-modeling should be shown over a spaced out period of time of approximately 6 weeks.

Drug treatments

Many practitioners believe that there is evidence indicating that antidepressants may be helpful in treating children & adults with selective mutism & even that medicine is essential to effective treatment. The medication is used to decrease anxiety levels to speed the process of therapy. Use of medication may end after nine to twelve months, once the person has learned skills to cope with anxiety & has become more comfortable in social situations. Medication is more often used for older children, teenagers, & adults whose anxiety has led to depression & other problems.

Medication, when used, should never be considered the entire treatment for a person with selective mutism. While on medication, the person should be in therapy to help one to know how to handle anxiety & prepare for life without medication.

Anti-depressants have been used in addition to self-modeling & mystery motivation in order to aid in the learning process.

Self-esteem is a term in psychology to reflect a person‘s overall evaluation or appraisal of one’s own worth. It is conceptualized as an attitude toward the self & is similar to a judgment of oneself. Self-esteem encompasses beliefs (for example, “I am competent”, “I am worthy”) & emotions such as triumph, despair, pride & shame. ‘The self-concept is what we think about the self; self-esteem, the positive or negative evaluations of the self, is how we feel about it’.

Self-esteem is a disposition that a person has which represents their judgments of their own worthiness. Self-esteem requires “a self-evaluation process in which individuals compare their description of themselves as they are (Real Self ) with their description of themselves as they would like to become ( Ideal Self) & as they fear becoming ( Dreaded Self)”. Self-esteem depends on living up to one’s ideal’s

Implicit self-esteem refers to a person’s disposition to evaluate themselves positively or negatively in a spontaneous, automatic, or unconscious manner. It contrasts with explicit self-esteem, which entails more conscious & reflective self-evaluation. Both explicit self-esteem & implicit self-esteem are subtypes of self-esteem proper.

Narcissism is a disposition; people may have that represents an excessive love for one’s self. It is characterized by an inflated view of self-worth.

Low self-esteem can result from various factors, including genetic factors, physical appearance or weight, socioeconomic status, or peer pressure or bullying.  Low self-esteem occasionally leads to suicidal ideation & behaviour. These can include self-imposed isolation, feelings of rejection, dejection, insignificance, & detachment, & increased dissatisfaction with current social relationships. A lack of social support from peers or family tends to create or exacerbate stress on an individual, which can lead to an inability to adjust to current circumstances

There are two distinct types of individuals that are called loners. The first type includes individuals that prefer solitude & are content to have very limited social interaction. The second type includes individuals that are forced to be isolated because they are rejected by society. This individual typically experiences loneliness. The first type is not lonely even when they are alone.  However, these are very broad generalizations & it is not uncommon for loners to experience both of these dimensions at some point—their bliss due to solitude may come at the price of loneliness.

In popular culture, there is a certain romanticism in the idea of the loner since one is seen as special & unique. This can be attributed to the notion that truly great people often lurk in the shadows of societies that espouse superficial standards of existence.

Some loners simply prefer isolation. They may feel they can reflect freely, mature faster, seek knowledge, reach goals more easily, & focus more on tasks. Disconnected from the people around them, they are more likely to make their own decisions & avoid peer pressure. Such loners may refuse to interact with others because of perceived or actual superiority in terms of ethics or intellect, & so relate only to individuals they consider worthy of their time & attention.

Therefore, this type of loner will have very few intimate relationships, within which they may socialize greatly. Such bonds may form slowly, & if a stranger enters the social group, the loner may automatically shell up. Others may isolate themselves out of self-hatred, misanthropy or self-consciousness. Social anxiety is common in their interactions: They believe people are constantly sizing up their attributes, & worry they will be judged negatively. Many can socialize only with people they see constantly. They feel social alienation even though their isolation is self-imposed.

Possible characteristics

While expressing a desire to be alone, loners do not necessarily reject human contact entirely. An example would be the person who shuns any social interaction with work colleagues beyond what is necessary for fulfilling one’s job description (mainly for practical reasons & to avoid further complicating one’s professional relationships) but who is highly charismatic during parties or social gatherings with people outside work or school, or vice-versa.

Most loners are able to act “normally” in a social setting. However, the strain of being in a situation which is uncomfortable may leave some mentally & emotionally exhausted. They may have to retreat for a significant amount of time before being able to do so again. The typical loner exhibits the personality trait known as introversion more than the average person. They are drawn to solitary activities to the detriment of social ones. This may be due to both innate personality traits as well as life experiences.

An interpersonal relationship is an association between two or more people that may range from association may be based on inference, love, solidarity, regular business interactions, or some other type of social commitment. Interpersonal relationships are formed in the context of social, cultural & other influences. The context can vary from family or kinship relations, friendship, marriage, relations with associates, work, clubs, neighborhoods, & places of worship. They may be regulated by law, custom, or mutual agreement, & are the basis of social groups & society as a whole.

Interpersonal relationships usually involve some level of interdependence. People in a relationship tend to influence each other, share their thoughts & feelings, & engage in activities together. Because of this interdependence, most things that change or impact one member of the relationship will have some level of impact on the other member as well.

The study of interpersonal relationships involves several branches of the social sciences, including such disciplines as sociology, psychology, anthropology, & social work.

Interpersonal relationships are dynamic systems that change continuously during their existence. Like living organisms, relationships have a beginning, a lifespan, & an end. They tend to grow & improve gradually, as people get to know each other & become closer emotionally, or they gradually deteriorate as people drift apart, move on with their lives & form new relationships with others. The natural development of a relationship follows five stages:

Acquaintance – Becoming acquainted depends on previous relationships, physical proximity, first impressions, & a variety of other factors. If two people begin to like each other, continued interactions may lead to the next stage, but acquaintance can continue indefinitely.

Buildup – During this stage, people begin to trust & care about each other. The need for intimacy, compatibility & such filtering agents as common background & goals will influence whether or not interaction continues.

Continuation – This stage follows a mutual commitment to a long-term friendship, romantic relationship, or marriage. It is generally a long, relative stable period. Nevertheless, continued growth & development will occur during this time. Mutual trust is important for sustaining the relationship.

Deterioration – Not all relationships deteriorate, but those that do tend to show signs of trouble. Boredom, resentment, & dissatisfaction may occur, & individuals may communicate less & avoid self-disclosure. Loss of trust & betrayals may take place as the downward spiral continues, eventually ending the relationship. (Alternately, the participants may find some way to resolve the problems & reestablish trust.)

Termination – The final stage marks the end of the relationship, either by death in the case of a healthy relationship, or by separation.

People can experience loneliness for many reasons & many life events may cause it, like the lack of friendship relations during childhood & adolescence, or the physical absence of meaningful people around a person. At the same time, loneliness may be a symptom of another social or psychological problem, such as chronic depression.

Many people experience loneliness for the first time when they are left alone as infants. It is also a very common, though normally temporary, consequence of a breakup, divorce, or loss of any important long-term relationship. In these cases, it may stem both from the loss of a specific person & from the withdrawal from social circles caused by the event or the associated sadness.

Loneliness may also occur immediately after the birth of a child or following any other socially disruptive event, such as moving from one’s home town into an unfamiliar community leading to homesickness. Loneliness can occur within unstable marriages or other close relationships in a similar nature, in which feelings present may include anger or resentment, or in which the feeling of love cannot be given or received.

Loneliness may represent a dysfunction of communication, & can also result from places with low population densities in which there are comparatively few people to interact with. Loneliness can also be seen as a social phenomenon, capable of spreading like a disease. Learning to cope with changes in life patterns is essential in overcoming loneliness.

This means that emotional loneliness is caused by the lack of a romantic partner, & feels like the separation distress one feels when a romantic partner is missing.

Social loneliness, on the other h&, is the loneliness people experience because of the lack of a wider social network. They do not feel they are members of a community, or that they have friends or allies whom they can rely on in times of distress.

Transient vs. chronic

The other important typology of loneliness focuses on the time perspective. In this respect, loneliness can be viewed as either transient or chronic. It has also been referred to as state & trait loneliness. Transient (state) loneliness is temporary in nature, caused by something in the environment, & is easily relieved. Chronic (trait) loneliness is more permanent, caused by the person, & is not easily relieved.

For example, when a person is sick & cannot socialize with friends would be a case of transient loneliness. Once the person got better it would be easy for them to alleviate their loneliness. A person who feels lonely regardless of if one is at a family gathering, with friends, or alone is experiencing chronic loneliness. It does not matter what goes on in the surrounding environment, the experience of loneliness is always there.

Distinction from solitude

One way of thinking about loneliness is as a discrepancy between one’s desired & achieved levels of social interaction, while solitude is simply the lack of contact with people. Loneliness is therefore a subjective experience; if a person thinks they are lonely, then they are lonely. People can be lonely while in solitude, or in the middle of a crowd. What makes a person lonely is the fact that they want more social interaction than what is currently available.

A person can be in the middle of a party & feel lonely due to not talking to enough people. Conversely, one can be alone & not feel lonely; even though there is no one around that person is not lonely because there is no desire for social interaction. There have also been suggestions that each person has their own sweet spot of social interaction. If a person gets too little or too much social interaction, this could lead to feelings of loneliness or over-stimulation.

Loneliness can also play an important role in the creative process. In some people, temporary or prolonged loneliness can lead to notable artistic & creative expression. This is not to imply that loneliness itself ensures this creativity, rather, it may have an influence on the subject matter of the artist & more likely be present in individuals engaged in creative activities.

Loneliness appears to have intensified in every society in the world as modernization occurs. A certain amount of this loneliness appears to be related to greater migration, smaller household sizes, a larger degree of media consumption (all of which, have positive sides as well in the form of more opportunities, more choice in family size, & better access to information)

Whether a correlation exists between Internet usage & loneliness is a subject of controversy, with some findings showing that Internet users are lonelier & others showing that lonely people who use the Internet to keep in touch with loved ones report less loneliness, but that those trying to make friends online became lonelier. “Internet use was found to decrease loneliness & depression significantly, while perceived social support & self-esteem increased significantly” & that the Internet “has an enabling & empowering role in people’s lives, by increasing their sense of freedom & control, which has a positive impact on well-being or happiness.”

Weighing the other side of the ‘King of Loneliness’….

Chronic loneliness is a serious, life-threatening condition. At least one study has empirically correlated it with an increased risk of cancer, especially for those who hide their loneliness from the outside world, & it is also associated with increased risk of stroke & cardiovascular disease. Loneliness has been linked with depression, & is thus a risk factor for suicide. Loneliness, specifically the inability or unwillingness to live for others, i.e. for friendships or altruistic ideas, as the main reason for what he called egoistic suicide.

There are many different ways used to treat loneliness, social isolation, & clinical depression. The first step that most doctors recommend to patients is therapy. Therapy is a common & effective way of treating loneliness & is often successful. Short term therapy, the most common form for lonely or depressed patients, typically occurs over a period of ten to twenty weeks.

During therapy, emphasis is put on understanding the cause of the problem, reversing the negative thoughts, feelings, & attitudes resulting from the problem, & exploring ways to help the patient feel connected. Some doctors also recommend group therapy as a means to connect with other sufferers & establish a support system. Doctors also frequently prescribe anti-depressants to patients as a stand-alone treatment, or in conjunction with therapy.

It may take several attempts before a suitable anti-depressant medication is found. Some patients may also develop a resistance to a certain type of medication & need to switch periodically. Alternative approaches to treating depression are suggested by many doctors. These treatments may include exercise, dieting, hypnosis, electro-shock therapy, acupuncture, herbs, amongst others. Many patients find that participating in these activities fully or partially alleviates symptoms related to depression.

Another treatment for both loneliness & depression is pet therapy, or animal-assisted therapy, as it is more formally known. Presence of animal companions such as dogs, cats, rabbits, & guinea pigs can ease feelings of depression & loneliness among some sufferers. Beyond the companionship the animal itself provides there may also be increased opportunities for socializing with other pet owners. Nostalgia has also been found to have a restorative effect, counteracting loneliness by increasing perceived social support.

In the bottomline, scrolling & glancing over several typical connotations in a nutshell;

Individualism is the moral stance, political philosophy, ideology, or social outlook that stresses “the moral worth of the individual“. Individualists promote the exercise of one’s goals & desires & so value independence & self-reliance while opposing external interference upon one’s own interests by society.

“An individual characteristic; a quirk.” Individualism is thus also associated with artistic & bohemian interests & lifestyles where there is a tendency towards self-creation & experimentation as opposed to tradition or popular mass opinions & behaviors as so also with humanist philosophical positions & ethics. The individualist does not lend credence to any philosophy that requires the sacrifice of the self-interest of the individual for any higher social causes.

Anarchism is generally defined as the political philosophy which holds the state to be undesirable, unnecessary, & harmful, or alternatively as opposing authority & hierarchical organization in the conduct of human relations. Proponents of anarchism, known as “anarchists”, advocate stateless societies based on non-hierarchical voluntary associations

Individualist anarchism refers to several traditions of thought within the anarchist movement that emphasize the individual & their will over any kinds of external determinants such as groups, society, traditions, & ideological systems. Individualist anarchism is not a single philosophy but refers to a group of individualistic philosophies that sometimes are in conflict.

Ethical egoism (also called simply egoism) is the normative ethical position that moral agents ought to do what is in their own self-interest. It differs from psychological egoism, which claims that people do only act in their self-interest. Ethical egoism also differs from rational egoism, which holds merely that it is rational to act in one’s self-interest. Ethical egoism contrasts with ethical altruism, which holds that moral agents have an obligation to help & serve others.

Existentialism, maintained that the individual solely has the responsibilities of giving one’s own life meaning & living that life passionately & sincerely, in spite of many existential obstacles & distractions including despair, absurdity, alienation, & boredom

Confucianism is a study & theory of relationships especially within hierarchies. Social harmony — the central goal of Confucianism — results in part from every individual knowing one’s place in the social order, & playing one’s part well. Particular duties arise from each person’s particular situation in relation to others. The individual stands simultaneously in several different relationships with different people: as a junior in relation to parents & elders, & as a senior in relation to younger siblings, students, & others. Juniors are considered in Confucianism to owe their seniors reverence & seniors have duties of benevolence & concern toward juniors.

Minding relationships

The mindfulness theory of relationships shows how closeness in relationships may be enhanced. Minding is the “reciprocal knowing process involving the nonstop, interrelated thoughts, feelings, & behaviors of persons in a relationship.” Five components of “minding” include:

Knowing & being known: seeking to understand the partner

Making relationship-enhancing attributions for behaviors: giving the benefit of the doubt

Accepting & respecting: empathy & social skills

Maintaining reciprocity: active participation in relationship enhancement

Continuity in minding: persisting in mindfulness

People can capitalize on positive events in an interpersonal context to work toward flourishing relationships. People often turn to others to share their good news. Studies show that both the act of telling others about good events & the response of the person with whom the event was shared have personal & interpersonal consequences, including increased positive emotions, subjective well-being, & self-esteem, & relationship benefits including intimacy, commitment, trust, liking, closeness, & stability. Studies show that the act of communicating positive events was associated with increased positive affect & well-being (beyond the impact of the positive event itself).

Avoidant Personality Disorder (or anxious personality disorder) is a person characterized by a pervasive pattern of social inhibition, feelings of inadequacy, extreme sensitivity to negative evaluation, & avoidance of social interaction.

People with avoidant personality disorder often consider themselves to be socially inept or personally unappealing & avoid social interaction for fear of being ridiculed, humiliated, rejected, or disliked. Avoidant personality disorder is usually first noticed in early adulthood. Childhood emotional neglect & peer group rejection (e.g. bullying) are both associated with an increased risk for the development of AvPD.

Signs & symptoms

People with avoidant personality disorder are preoccupied with their own shortcomings & form relationships with others only if they believe they will not be rejected. Loss & rejection are so painful that these individuals will choose to be lonely rather than risk trying to connect with others.

Causes

Apart from the above, other causes of avoidant personality disorder are not clearly defined, & may be influenced by a combination of social, genetic, & psychological factors. The disorder may be related to temperamental factors that are inherited. Specifically, various anxiety disorders in childhood & adolescence have been associated with a temperament characterized by behavioral inhibition, including features of being shy, fearful, & withdrawn in new situations. These inherited characteristics may give an individual a genetic predisposition towards AvPD. Childhood emotional neglect & peer group rejection are both associated with an increased risk for the development of AvPD.

Treatment of avoidant personality disorder can employ various techniques, such as social skills training, cognitive therapy, exposure treatment to gradually increase social contacts, group therapy for practicing social skills, & sometimes drug therapy. A key issue in treatment is gaining & keeping the patient’s trust, since people with avoidant personality disorder will often start to avoid treatment sessions if they distrust the therapist or fear rejection. The primary purpose of both individual therapy & social skills group training is for individuals with avoidant personality disorder to begin challenging their exaggerated negative beliefs about themselves.

Persistent & pervasive feelings of tension & apprehension; belief that one is socially inept, personally unappealing or inferior to others; excessive preoccupation with being criticized or rejected in social situations; unwillingness to become involved with people unless certain of being liked; restrictions in lifestyle because of need to have physical security; avoidance of social or  occupational activities that involve significant interpersonal contact because of fear of criticism, disapproval, or rejection. Associated features may include hypersensitivity to rejection & criticism.

It refers in general to a widespread pattern of inhibition around people, feeling inadequate & being very sensitive to being evaluated negatively, since early adulthood & occurring in a range of situations.

An inferiority complex, often used to mean low self-esteem, is a feeling of intense insecurity, inferiority or of not measuring up. An inferiority complex can be seen in the negative or “useless” reactions to problems in life. These reactions are useless because they do not solve the problem at h&, but only one’s self-esteem by avoiding the task or by placing the blame for the failure outside of the individual’s control.

Although the inferiority complex may be seen as comparing individuals or groups as one being superior to another, it more closely describes how one deals with a fear of failure. An inferiority complex as when “the feeling of inferiority is highly intensified to the degree that the one believes that he will never be able to compensate for his weakness”.

A primary inferiority feeling is said to be rooted in the young child’s original experience of weakness, helplessness & dependency. It can then be intensified by comparisons to siblings, romantic partners, & adults. A secondary inferiority feeling relates to an adult’s experience of being unable to reach a subconscious, fictional final goal of subjective security & success to compensate for the inferiority feelings. The perceived distance from that goal would lead to a negative/depressed feeling that could then prompt the recall of the original inferiority feeling; this composite of inferiority feelings could be experienced as overwhelming.

An inferiority complex occurs when the feelings of inferiority are intensified in the individual through discouragement. The blame may be placed on their race, gender, genetics, sexual orientation, family, social class, mental health, physical appearance, or any character trait that the individual feels is lacking. An individual tends to only display their inferiority complex when faced with a task, or problem in life that they do not feel capable of solving or mastering

Symptoms from complete isolation, called sensory deprivation, often include anxiety, sensory illusions, or even distortions of time & perception. However, this is the case when there is no stimulation of the sensory systems at all, & not only lack of contact with people. Still, long-term solitude is often seen as undesirable, causing loneliness or reclusion resulting from inability to establish relationships. Furthermore, it might even lead to clinical depression. However, for some people, solitude is not depressing. Still others (e.g. monks) regard long-term solitude as a means of spiritual enlightenment.

Enforced loneliness (solitary confinement) has been a punishment method throughout history. It is often considered a form of torture. In contrast, some psychological conditions (such as schizophrenia & schizoid personality disorder) are strongly linked to a tendency to seek solitude.

Emotional isolation is a state of isolation where one has a well-functioning social network but still feels emotionally separated from others.

Psychological effects

There are both positive & negative psychological effects of solitude. Much of the time, these effects & the longevity is determined by the amount of time a person spends in isolation. The positive effects can range anywhere from more freedom to increased spirituality, while the negative effects are socially depriving & may trigger the onset of mental illness.

Positive effects

There are many benefits to spending time alone, freedom is considered to be one of the benefits of solitude. The constraints of others will not have any effect on a person who is spending time in solitude, therefore giving the person more of a scope to his actions. With increased freedom, a person’s choices are less likely to be affected by exchanges with others.

A person’s creativity can be sparked when given freedom. Solitude can increase freedom & moreover, freedom from distractions has the potential to spark creativity.

Another proven benefit to time given in solitude is the development of self. When a person spends time in solitude from others, he may experience changes to his self-concept. This can also help a person to form or discover his identity without any outside distractions. Solitude also provides time for contemplation, growth in personal spirituality, & self-examination. In these situations, loneliness can be avoided as long as the person in solitude knows that they have meaningful relations with others.

Negative effects

Too much solitude is not always considered beneficial. Many of the negative effects have been observed in prisoners. Negative effects of solitude may also depend on age. Elementary age school children who experience frequent solitude may react negatively. This is largely because, often, solitude at this age is not something chosen by the child. Solitude in elementary age kids may occur when the kids don’t know how to interact socially with others so they prefer to be alone, causing shyness or social rejection.

While teenagers are more likely to feel lonely or unhappy when not around others, they are also more likely to have a more enjoyable experience with others if they have had time alone first. However, teenagers who frequently spend time alone don’t have as good of a global adjustment as those who balance their time of solitude with their social time

Gist of solitude

Solitude does not necessarily entail feelings of loneliness. For example, in religious contexts, some saints preferred silence & found immense pleasure in their uniformity with God. Buddha attained enlightenment through uses of meditation, deprived of sensory input, bodily necessities, & external desires, including social interaction.

The context of solitude is attainment of pleasure from within, rather than seeking it in the external world. In psychology, introverted individuals may require spending time away from people to recharge. Those who are simply socially apathetic might find it a pleasurable environment in which to occupy oneself with solitary tasks.

P.S. : Well, after a long stretched article; there’s not much to comment on the ‘King of Loneliness’.

 ~Thank You~

The ‘SmiLing teeth’

Discretionary Disclaimer:

The characters, places, events depicted in this articulate creation are purely fictional which are based on non fictional ideas & incidences. Any factual resemblance & relation, if found, to any of such characters, places, events has to be purely coincidental & also unintentional.

Also several caricatures & cartoons, animated or otherwise depicted in this article are for representational purpose & does not bear any commercial or advertisement connection; nor any attempt of creating awareness or some ‘issued in public interest’ kindda stuff.

So off lately, again having struck off with an unusual theme & track while counting & staring on to the teeth, without any special reason or occasion or even for the sake of revolving thoughts around to write something; so chewing, biting & churning the words, around thirty two times in countless ways, so as to digest & to create yet again another articulate creation.

Moving back simply to creatively carve out the words on the teeth & fill in the cavity gaps, coating the bleeding gums, glossing & piercing throughout. When it comes to teeth; brushing rigorously, rubbing, rather scrubbing with hell lot accessories of tooth pastes ranging from anti sensitive, anti oxidant, ingredients containing fluoride, anti calculus, anti plaque, whitening specialist etc; with toothbrushes designed to be firm, soft bristled & even extra-soft bristled long & short strokes, just to wipe out anything & everything & needless to point out the flavors of toothpaste; be it crystals, salt, mint, sugar free, chocolate & many such ice cream tastes. New addition to the shelf of accessories is concentrated liquid used as mouth rinse & wash; bubbling with luke warm to keep all day long fresh. Even the chocolates & chewing gum have been designed least to erode but to brighten up the teeth & reduce the chances of tooth decay.

Visiting a small saloon at a corner side, under a tree or be it a professionally run saloon (habib chachu); most of us intentionally expect rather strongly aspire to walk out of the saloon; as if the spotlight ought to be over the head & the crowded streets seems to take a glance at the new hairstyle (be it peculiarly different or spectacularly adorable & vivacious). - Read More -

This one, unusually are the fictional & non fictional experiences of couple of hours at a dentist; a place where charges are billed on the volume & pitch of screams & the number of visits in a year are directly proportional to the number of patients awaiting for check up at a given point of time. The bizarre & instinctive err feeling after entering in to dentist; is something like stucking up in a roller coaster with echoing screams & turmoils in the stomach.

The ambience is barely dreadly enough to think about accidental breaking of teeth, sprouting blood all over a small cut, forcing onto the jaws & chin to open wide like a dinosaur. Having firmly taken seat on one of the mechanized chairs; just closing the eyes & playing by the words in the back of the mind & conscience…..

Keenly observing the business, emotions, feelings, sensitivity, ethical pressures & such impersonal parameters to be associated & interlinked with ‘teeth’. The very first glimpses of the commercials to be impressive & dashing by having a ‘Colgate Smile’; or simply uttering Cheese or Paneer while taking snap & until the right mood is captured with the ‘best & perfect smiling teeth’

Welcome to ‘The world of teeth’; undoubtedly the place of undiscovered  pearls; except for the medical terminologies & experiments, which are carried out as part of Hippocratic Oath; for sake of assignments, projects, inventions & specimen tests & researches etc.

So, having come across on to the different sizes, patterns, shades; be it fainted, bright, faded or hell lot colors at different points of time; when it comes to giving a killing instinct, wide opening of the windows & doorways, shyful or even aggressive smile. Teeth, as a sole factor has its own distinctive persona; which has innumerous senses such as sensitive itching, swelling, piercing, tittering teeth in fear, anger, frustration or simply depression.

Meanwhile, exercising long & short breathes & holding onto breathes; while synchronizing with the pumping devices & gadgets, perspiring through the senses……

The classic legends of the tooth fairy; sprouted thoughts of a fairy that gives a child gifts in exchange for a baby tooth that has fallen out. Children typically place the tooth under their pillow at night. The fairy is said to take the tooth from under the pillow & replace it with gift in kind once they have fallen asleep.

Technically‘teeth’ of humans are small, calcified, hard, whitish structures found in the mouth. They function in mechanically breaking down items of  food by cutting & crushing them in preparation for swallowing & digestion. The roots of teeth are embedded in the maxilla (upper jaw) or the mandible (lower jaw) & are covered by gums. Teeth are made of multiple tissues of varying density & hardness.

Teeth are among the most distinctive (& long-lasting) features of mammal species. Humans, like other mammals, are diphyodont, meaning that they develop two sets of teeth. The first set (also called the “baby”, “milk”, “primary”, & “deciduous” set) normally starts to appear at about six months of age, although some babies are born with one or more visible teeth, known as neonatal teeth. Normal tooth eruption at about six months is known as ‘teething’.

Deciduous teeth, otherwise known as baby teeth, are the first set of teeth in the growth development of humans & many other mammals. In some Asian countries they are referred to as ‘fall teeth’ as they will eventually fall out, while in almost all European languages they are called ‘milk teeth’.

They develop during the embryonic stage of development & erupt that is, they become visible in the mouth during infancy. They are usually lost & replaced by permanent teeth, but in the absence of permanent replacements, they can remain functional for many years.

Unlike most mammals, which grow baby teeth & then replace them with a single permanent set of adult teeth, elephants have cycles of tooth rotation throughout their entire lives. The tusks have milk precursors, which fall out quickly & the adult tusks are in place by one year of age, but the chewing teeth are replaced five or very rarely, six times in an elephant’s lifetime.

A shark tooth is one of the numerous teeth of a shark. Sharks continually shed their teeth, & some Carcharhiniformes shed approximately 35,000 teeth in a lifetime. In some geological formations, shark’s teeth are a common fossil; which can be analyzed for information on shark evolution & biology, especially because the teeth are often the only part of the shark to be fossilized, in fact fossil teeth comprise much of the fossil record of the Selachimorpha, extending back hundreds of millions of years.

The shape of sharks’ teeth vary according to their diet; those species that feed on mollusks & crustaceans have dense flattened teeth for crushing, those that feed on fish have needle-like teeth for gripping, & those that feed on larger prey such as mammals have pointed lower teeth for gripping & triangular upper teeth with serrated edges for cutting. The teeth of plankton-feeders such as the basking shark are greatly reduced & non-functional.

Various cultures have conventional customs relating to the loss of deciduous teeth. These were most commonly associated with mice or other rodents on account of their sharp, everlasting teeth.

In Britain, lost teeth were commonly burnt to destroy them. This was partly for religious reasons connected with the ‘Last Judgment’ & partly for fear of what might happen if an animal got them.

A rhyme is also said as a blessing:

Old tooth, New tooth; Pray God send me a new tooth!!..

In India, as well, young children offer their discarded baby teeth to the sun, sometimes wrapped in a tiny rag of cotton turf. In southern India, children bury their teeth in the soil hoping for a newer one to grow. The Sri Lankan tradition is to throw the milk teeth onto the roof or a tree in the presence of a squirrel. The child then tells the squirrel to take the old tooth in return for a new one.

The Indian Medical Association (I.M.A.), the national organization of “Doctors of Modern Scientific System of Medicine”, was established in 1928, & currently IMA has around 1,78,000 members belonging to different branches of medical profession & functions through a network of more than 1700 local branches, located in different parts throughout India.

Tooth tradition present in the United States sometimes comes under different names. A Ratón Pérez appeared in the tale of the Vain Little Mouse. The Ratoncito Pérez was used by Colgate marketing in Venezuela & Spain. In Italy, the Tooth Fairy (Fatina) is also often replaced by a small mouse (topino). In France & in French-speaking Belgium, this character is called la petite souris (“The Little Mouse”). From parts of lowland Scotland comes a tradition similar to the fairy mouse: a white fairy rat that purchases the teeth with coins. In some places in Australia & Norway, the children put the tooth in a glass of water. In medieval Scandinavia there was a tradition, surviving to the present day in Iceland, of tannfé (‘tooth-money’), a gift to a child when it cuts its first tooth.

Moving back to the technicalities, enamel is the hardest & most highly mineralized substance of the body. It is one of the four major tissues which make up the tooth, along with dentin, cementum, & dental pulp. It is normally visible & must be supported by underlying dentin. 96% of enamel consists of mineral, with water & organic material comprising the rest.

Suspecting for smoking habits, tobacco & other such deadly stuffs; is likely possible in case, yellow tarnished teeth have a peculiar bad odour. Tooth abnormalities may be categorized according to whether they have environmental or developmental causes.While environmental abnormalities may appear to have an obvious cause, there may not appear to be any known cause for some developmental abnormalities.

Environmental forces may affect teeth during development, destroy tooth structure after development, discolor teeth at any stage of development, or alter the course of tooth eruption. Developmental abnormalities most commonly affect the number, size, shape, & structure of teeth.

Tooth destruction after development from processes is considered a normal physiologic process but may become severe enough to become a pathologic condition & the study of dental trauma is called dental traumatology.

Attrition is the loss of tooth structure by mechanical forces from opposing teeth. Attrition initially affects the enamel &, if unchecked, may proceed to the underlying dentin.

Abrasion is the loss of tooth structure by mechanical forces from a foreign element. If this force begins at the cement enamel junction, then progression of tooth loss can be rapid since enamel is very thin in this region of the tooth. A common source of this type of tooth wear is excessive force when using a toothbrush.

Erosion is the loss of tooth structure due to chemical dissolution by acids not of bacterial origin. Signs of tooth destruction from erosion are a common characteristic in the mouths of people since vomiting results in exposure of the teeth to gastric acids. Another important source of erosive acids is from frequent sucking of lemon juice.

Abfraction is the loss of tooth structure from flexural forces. As teeth flex under pressure, the arrangement of teeth touching each other, known as occlusion, causes tension on one side of the tooth & compression on the other side of the tooth. This is believed to cause V-shaped depressions on the side under tension & C-shaped depressions on the side under compression. When tooth destruction occurs at the roots of teeth, the process is referred to as internal resorption, when caused by cells within the pulp, or external resorption, when caused by cells in the periodontal ligament.

Discoloration of teeth may result from bacteria stains, tobacco, tea, coffee, foods with an abundance of chlorophyll, restorative materials, & medications. Stains from bacteria may cause colors varying from green to black to orange. Green stains also result from foods with chlorophyll or excessive exposure to copper or nickel. Amalgam, a common dental restorative material, may turn adjacent areas of teeth black or gray. Long term use of chlorhexidine, a mouthwash may encourage extrinsic stain formation near the gingiva on teeth.

Systemic disorders also can cause tooth discoloration. Some medications, such as tetracycline antibiotics, may become incorporated into the structure of a tooth, causing intrinsic staining of the teeth.

Lastly in the bottom line, the broken teeth is very exhausted & seems to be dwindling after having digested more than couple of thousand words in a go. So, having brightened, exercised the ‘teeth’; over petty stuffs; be it the human baby teeth, tusks of giant elephant; shark tooth, etc. The very next time, you watch out into the mirror, you ought to stare at your very own ‘smiling teeth’ with an appealing & impressive smile!!….

 ~Thank You~

 

~The Flawless Mistake~

You AtTeMpT something,

To put one-step forward;

& you learn from EaCh & EvErY MiStAkE….

By far now, have read & heard a lot more than countless times about mistakes. As being ‘mistakes’ are the stepping stones to new learning; overcoming ‘mistakes’ is the first step towards success; always make ‘new mistakes’; ‘Mistakes & faults’ are destined. Also the great Albert Einstein quoted as ‘anyone who has never made a ‘mistake’ has never tried anything new’.

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Moreover having come across versatility of mistakes just as grammatical & spelling mistakes; punctuation & pronunciation errors, identification & recognition mistake, faulty practices, Mistake of law (a defensive action for criminal charges on the grounds of ignorance of law); gaffe (a verbal mistake, usually arises from saying something that is true, but inappropriate;  also an erroneous attempt to reveal a truth). So having done bit of homework to avoid committing a ‘mistake’; precisely ‘mistake’ is an error caused by a fault; the fault being misjudgment, carelessness, or forgetfulness; thus mistake can sometimes be dispelled through knowledge (knowing that one is looking at a illusion & not at any real substance does not make the mirage disappear).

Exploring intentionally & not vaguely by mistake; committing a mistake knowingly or unintentionally, directly or indirectly continuously revolves the vicious circle of repetition, realizing, admitting, confessing, improvising, seeking expert guidance, critically examining, overdependence, scrapping out & the worst of it merely ignoring it.

Merely accepting the mistake & moving ahead without giving heed to the cause & crust of the issue; is similar to like burying the minor mistakes with yet another series of mistakes to create a stacky complex mountain; just like a chain of lies follow to hide one single lie (small mistake). A ‘mistake’ sailing along with a apologize or ‘sorry’ is always likely to drown sooner or later; without getting any lifeguards to alter, analyze, understand the root cause & acting upon on the second chance.

Stressing over the ‘out of the track theme’ of this articulate creation as; when it comes to surpassing to attempt a flawless mistake….in my opinion, attempting flawless mistakes requires ample of patience, determination, result oriented efforts, perseverance unlike the same striving for the goals to be achieved.

Mistakes too have their own signals & vibrations.…

Some mIsTaKeS in LiFe can be by mIsTaKe.

Some IdEaZ, ThOuGhTz are expressed,

Some DeCiSiOnS are taken,

Some DrEaMz are imagined,

Some pRiNcIpLeS, VaLuEs are followed,

Some qUaLiTiEs are acquired,

Some ThInGz are experienced,

Some MiNdS get corrupted,

Some NeEdS, ReQuIrEmEnTs are fulfilled,

Some PrObLeMs are created,

Some GrEaT DeEds take place.

Revealing out further about mistakes; revolving thoughts around & brainstorming for attempting flawless mistakes; jus coz even a minor, mistake may not necessarily transform into another ‘big mistake’; but may as well create hurdles for other major mistakes. Excessive post mortem & brooding over any small, petty or even big blast of mistake; coz again it just leaves behind fruitless conclusions which also are a result of unproductive use of time & like precious stuffs.

So without committing yet another ‘mistake’ of stretching this note too long like a daily soap or compiling the sequels of this story, beyond a limit; so just leaving behind for a while on the thought of attempting, striving & exploring more of ‘flawless mistake’ for a ‘change’.…

In the bottom line; almost all of us do ‘mistakes’ (directly or indirectly; intentionally or otherwise; confessing others or just to self) at some or the other point of time; but doing a ‘flawless mistake’ has its own ‘privilege’ &…….

Learn to CoMmIt a mIsTaKe;

Learn to AcCePt your own mIsTaKe;

Later on, LeArN to AvOiD & ImPrOvE,

EaCh & EvErY MiStAkE,

With a GoOd PuRpOsE & nOt, by ‘MIStAKE’!!…

~Thank You~

Lost to be Found

Going by the title of this article; it may not presumably strike the storyline; as to what gets lost & what can be found. Some things & stuffs are destined to be lost in some or the other manner either willingly, intentionally or otherwise, while some things are to be found unexpectedly at odd times & without any alarming signals. It’s indeed quite implicit & unsaid yet supposed to be the way it is & conveniently accepted as a conventional & commonly practiced thumb rule.

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So exploring another such, out of the track yet usually noticeable but unrecognized & also casually perceived incidences & events which are “lost forever or temporarily for time being; only to be found later” in clueless ways. At times, it seems intensely that beyond our imagination, perseverance; lies something super natural & instinctive power which witnesses & also gives intuitive signals to fear for losing out closed ones. So without losing the theme of this articulate creation; getting back to the track as to what we tend to forget or to be more apt merely ignore the fact that ‘some things are lost only to be found later on’.

To give instances, most of us just have heard & may be even witnessed ‘lost & found cases’ which are ‘most wanted’ of what is lost, be it some single pin sized stuff or pinnacle sized human being. To make more simpler justifications to relate, the terms ‘lost & found’ can be followed with any of the suffixes to suite the meaning & express effectively.

To perceive from a different angle, its rather a game of destiny; just getting on the nerves of the game of destiny, at times the ‘secret’ formula works very much successfully. We merely think of preventing ‘some things’ from theft or loosing away & getting far at sensitive points. So in the bottom line; as the formula evidently reveals that our ‘thoughts reflect into our actions & circumstances’; but ultimately as to what we desire & revolve thoughts around. So without being much philosophical; little amount of sand has to be loosened in tight fist filled with handful of sand.

Exceptionally not always to gain some or the other thing; but to adjust to the crisis & circumstances; to lose one thing, one ought to lose some other thing as well. Its unusually yet fortunate enough; that someone literally loses out a wallet filled with important documents, cards etc & a smart phone loaded with important contacts etc on couple of different occasions; & to find it later, just to experience the brighter side of humanity & hope.

To find some other track of this article; sometimes to lose & also to find them later is accidentally coincidence or can be conspired & plotted to seek narcissistic deeds. Some as well take utmost care to avoid with the fear of losing out the mind to find & gain relief & patience with deep breathing exercises.

Exploring more on all such damn precious & priceless stuffs (tangible & intangible); loosing time & later on meticulously finding spare time to meet up deadlines; also losing out money & further curbing on unproductive expenditures & scraping out luxuries for sake of saving penny. One such other thing is vrgnty; some seek to lose it for encountering adventure or mere hunt for satisfaction; be it mentally or physically.

Some dilemmatic & perplexing situations force to lose out faith, innocence, moral values & ethics; which are nurtured in good spirits. Some of us must have heard about losing up on relationships & finding excuses to pass on the bucks to sort out misunderstandings etc. With work pressures & hell lot other tensions; some suffer from sleep disorders & are medically tagged & certified as ‘being insomniac’. Some others tend to lose out senses over petty issues which do not happen as desired & curse the destiny for losing the fortunate fate.

The very immediate reaction after losing out something most of the times, is the carelessness attitude & imprudent behavior to be blamed; & we just often ignore the solutions for the same & adjust to what comes under our roof. To worsen the crisis, losing out important files & documents by fire, mishap or simply a thought of losing the data by crashing down of electronic devices such as songs from ipod, would prove to be dreadful to recover back. Another such terrifying dreams of losing out marks in exam for some or the other silly mistakes ought to suffer with sleepless nights until the desired results are out.

So, in case you are totally engrossed & lost in thoughts of brooding over ‘what had been lost’ in the past, which ‘may or may not have been found later’, & so, reminding to do the needful; to find the like or share button (if at all you had lost & found something or anything in this article) & also to comment without losing any words (be it critically or otherwise).

~Thank You~

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